2-28-10 "Where there is love there is life.” Mohandas Gandhi

“We are all bound by ties of love…Scientists tell us that without the presence of the cohesive force amongst the atoms that comprise this globe of ours, it would crumble to pieces and we would cease to exist, and even as there is cohesive force in blind matter, so must there be in all things animate, and the name for that cohesive force among animate beings is love. We notice it between father and son, between brother and sister, friend and friend…Where there is love there is life.” Mohandas Gandhi

How much love do you have in your life?
One of the greatest loves of my life passed away 5 months ago. Even though my Mother and I did not have an extremely close relationship, she has always been in my life. And it hurt when she died. And I think of her being gone every day. I was sick last week and thought about calling her just to talk to her and get her reassurance and I chuckled at myself.
I wanted the comfort of the love that she gave me when I became vulnerable.
We all seek that comfort and when we cannot find it, we change and grow. Sometimes we grow in positive ways and sometimes in negative ways.
Love is about positive change. The love for another is about seeking ways to make that person reach their dreams and goals. The love for ourselves is about wholeness.
So if I am talking about love, why do I bring up grief? Because I let my grief get in the way of the love that I need to share with my family and friends. I’m not saying it is wrong to grieve. Or that the 5 month mark is the magic time to stop grieving. I just need to love more and grieve less. If love is life then grief is death.
As it is very late and I cannot express this to someone tonight, I will get up in the morning, make some coffee and cook breakfast. Then I’ll get on the phone and call someone and tell them I love them. But nothing before I hug and kiss my sons.
Tell your Mother, Father, brother, sister, friend or spouse that to love them enriches your life. Let that love be an encouragement for positive growth and change. Let there be life!

May your week be as fruitful as I will try to make mine!

L