4-11-10 "The most important kind of freedom is to be what you really are." Jim Morrison

"The most important kind of freedom is to be what you really are. You trade in your reality for a role. You trade in your sense for an act. You give up your ability to feel, and in exchange, put on a mask. There can't be any large-scale revolution until there's a personal revolution, on an individual level. It's got to happen inside first."
— Jim Morrison

How many times a week do you put on a mask? Are you ready for your own personal revolution?

I have friends that are having a difficult time letting things go. And I am not sure there is anything that anyone can say or do to help them with this release. We all know that feeling. At least, I, can truly sympathize.
Now, I’m not talking about letting go of possessions or a point in an argument or a political ideal. I’m talking about relationships and friendships, saying goodbye to loved ones and not necessarily or specifically if we lose someone in death. We hold onto the familiar and safe. I’ve talked about this before. I want the comfort of my Mother’s voice. I miss my ex-husband, he was my best friend for about 15 years.
But, if I hang onto ‘missing’ them, then I will never change and grow. I need to change. I need to grow. I am not a Mother’s, daughter anymore. I am not a wife anymore. I am still a daughter, sister, Mother and friend. Those are the relationships I need to hold onto and nourish and cherish.
But how did I get to the point where I wanted to take off those masks of daughter and wife and when did it happen? I cannot pinpoint a day or even a month in which my heart and mind eased away from these that are gone. I haven’t stopped loving them. But I have gradually stepped out of those roles. I’ve told my friends to cry until you can’t cry anymore and then cry some more. And to breathe in and breathe out. But the best advice is to stop dwelling on the things that you miss. You don’t have to forget but you can make yourself simply stop thinking about them all the time. That is the revolution of self. To just be who you are without the masks and the pain. To gracefully walk away and be and gain your freedom.

May your week be as fruitful as I will try to make mine!

L